Husband forgets wife's birthday but refuses to take accountability, instead blames it on 26-year-old stepdaughter for not reminding him: ‘You should have warned me’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Jul 21, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

How can someone, in this day and age, forget the birthday of a person so close to them? Never mind the fact that their birthday should be seared into their memories, making it impossible to skip over, but we have so many technological advancements that ensure no one's birthday goes unnoticed, so how does that still happen to people with their loved ones every single day?

It doesn't even require that much effort. All you have to do is put it into your phone's calendar, set it to repeat every year, and you're good. You can even set reminders for the week or the day before, so you can make those dinner reservations, or order the birthday gift you have sitting in your Amazon cart.  It shouldn't be that hard.

Yet, for many people on this planet, it is hard. They still let important dates pass by them without noticing, and they hurt the people they love the most in the process.

Is it anyone's fault but their own? We think not, but the stepfather in the story below would beg to differ.

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  • The husband in the story below has been married to his wife for two years, and already he has gotten so comfortable in the relationship that he has allowed himself to forget her birthday. 

    Not only that, he also refused to take accountability for his mess up, and instead blamed his stepchildren for not reminding him themselves…

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    AITA for not reminding my mom’s husband of her birthday?

    He has been married to her for two years. Dated for one before that. I(26) knew he's quite busy but didn't think he would forget.
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    On Mom's birthday, my brother and I got her one present each. Her favorite actress is starring in a new series so I bought her the
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    novel it's based on, so she can read it before the show is released. My brother got her a Popmart figurine.
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    When we went over to their house and her husband realized that he forgot, he got upset. He said we should have
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    warned him since we know how much time he spends at work and that things can slip his mind.
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    SneakySneakySquirrel NTA. If he's so successful at work, surely he knows how to put important dates on a calendar.
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    Wild-Card-543 For his birthday you should buy him a calendar.
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    Existing Try_2857 The real issue is that, instead of owning his own sc 7 up, he tried to blame you for "not reminding him". That's just a really bad look for a grown a
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    man, who has a passing fancy with how calendars work and presumable has a smart phone, with a what's it called, yeah, it's a freaking calendar!!! I feel bad
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    for your mom that she is married to someone so self absorbed, he can't be bothered to remember her bday.
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    Weak-Elephant-1760 It's not your job to remind a grown man of his wife's birthday
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    IllustriousSyzygy Does he pay you for being his personal assistant? No? Then NTA.
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    Angylisis NTA. If a grown man can't figure out how to use a calendar, he's trash.
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    a_round_a_bout So I have an extremely busy job, and my colleagues have busy jobs. And I know other people with busy jobs. And guess what we all have in common? We all live by our calendars.
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    Do you also know what successful people don't do? Blame others for their bulls mistakes.
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    Impossible_Smile4113 In this day and age of digital calendars with alarm systems and multiple reminders... no, you're NTA. He should use his available resources and make
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    sure he's not in the dog house when it comes to important wife dates. This is 110% on him.
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    mpurdey12 NTA $5 says that if you had reminded him of your mother's birthday, he would have gotten
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    annoyed and defensive and snapped at you that he knew when his wife/your mother's birthday is.
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